I think it was Seth Godin who chided that if you become an entrepreneur you cannot have success without the potential for failure; therefore failure is always (realistically speaking) an option. What do you do when your business fails? A dear friend of mine is moving through that experience now. She’s picking up the pieces and trying to figure it all out. What she has learned, what she would do differently and what it all means to her. Life can be really bitter at times and this is one of those moments for her.
Failure is not a stranger to me. I have had failure appear to me in myriad ways from the death of one of my children, to career issues to the end of a challenging marriage. No one likes to fail and it is a particularly odious thing when you fail publicly. Here are some ideas for you to consider in the event you too find yourself falling short in an area of life that means the world to you…
Remember who are and what you do are not the same thing. The project may fail, but it doesn’t mean you are a failure.
Write, draw, or paint your sorrow, your thoughts and your feelings. There are deep lessons that will shift the pain you’re moving through and in time you may help someone through a similar challenge.
Lean on friends who get you; negativity isn’t helpful when you’re in the thick of disaster. Listen to the advice of others if you need to; just remember to keep an ear out for what your own personal Truth about the situation is.
Don’t continue to do it–the job, the business, the relationship–whatever, just to save face. Let it go so that something better can take its place (after all, life abhors a vacuum). I realize it may take awhile before you’re willing to let go…just get the idea on your radar…
“If you never try you’ll never know, just what you’re worth. Lights will guide you home and ignite your bones. And I will try to fix you.” is my favorite line from Coldplay’s song Fix You. As far as failure is concerned, you are in good company–consider Oprah and Einstein to Eminem; and though others will try to ‘fix you’, in the end you’ll probably find it best to leave that job to the expert–who is, of course, you.